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January 21, 2020

4 Beauty Routine Tips For Invisible Illness Warriors

Beauty and fashion can be one of the few ways that we can set ourselves apart. What happens when that is suddenly taken away from us.

Maybe you are someone who is up on all of the fashion trends?

Maybe you are someone who is doing your makeup and hair full out everyday?

Maybe you are someone in between the above two options?

Regardless of what you consider yourself it’s a part of who you are.

Like I mentioned earlier, what would you do if that was taken from you, or had to be changed drastically?

As most of you know I have Central Pain Syndrome, which is a neurological disorder due to damage to the brain, brain-stem, or spine. The nerves in my brain don’t work properly. Certain types of touch such as wearing tight pants and any kind of pressure can give me bruises.

I used to be the one who loved to get dolled up. I wore jeans and leggings constantly with cute tops. Now after having CPS for the last few years, I can no longer wear leggings. Jeans are typically for a short amount of time and have to be stretchy. Most times while I am doing my hair and make-up I want to cry because of the burning sensation in my arms from the movement or it just exhausts me.

I have talked to so many others who suffer from invisible illnesses that go through the same things that I do and it can be detrimental to our mental health.

I have come up with a few tips and tricks that i have learned along the way.

Beauty Tip 1: Less is More

I have learned that if you can limit your beauty routine to the basics it will help you to save your energy and you can still look like you tried. I typically put on Foundation, blush and depending on the day I will put eyeliner and shadow. For the most part, it takes me 5 minutes and I feel good about myself all the same. Some of my favorite products include Clinique liquid foundation, Mac blush, Mary Kay eyeliner and I just started using a new eyeshadow palette.

This is my  beauty routine and what I use everyday

Beauty Tip 2: Save Your Spoons For Special Occasions

Similar to what I mentioned in tip #1 it is better to do less when possible. There will always be times when we have to go all out with our make up and hair. I know from experience if I had to go all out every day with some days having to do it more than once I wouldn’t be able to do much after tha. It’s also good for your skin not to cake on a bunch of makeup every day. I love nights that I do go out and put more make up on because I feel like I am ready to take on the world.

Besides make up, hair is another big part when it comes to getting ready. Even more so than my makeup, my hair is what makes me miserable. I used to have long hair and at one point i was tired of taking the time to do it everyday. I decided to make it shorter. It was the best decision I ever made. Most days I either quickly go over it with my straightener or I use one of my many accessories to look cute and not add to my pain.

Beauty Tip 3: Have Someone Help You

This isn’t always easy or available to you, but if you have the chance to have someone help you I highly recommend it. Before anyone freaks out I don’t mean a stylist or makeup artist. I just mean another set of hands so you don’t have to. There are so many times I will have my mom help me, or if I am with a friend they will help out with my hair. It saves us many “spoons” and it might even turn out better than you planned from having another set of hands doing spots you can’t.

If you are reading this as someone who knows someone with an invisible illness you could also take charge and help them with their hair or makeup. Sometimes we don’t want to ask for help because we feel that we have to do this on our own to feel whole.

Beauty Tip 4: Use Accessories

My last tip and i partly mentioned this above, but I love accessories. I wear cute hats, headbands or even just throwing my hair up in a messy bun to not have to bother. These are such easy ways to be cute, but comfortable at the same time and they won’t take hours to do.

I love doing small braids and tying them, I wear beanies a lot and baseball caps with sayings. When I have to go somewhere nicer I will take the time to really do my hair. I also typically shower at night and let me hair dry on its own most days. If I shower earlier in the day I make sure to give myself a lot of time to be able to give myself a break in between.

There are so many ways to be able to make yourself look and feel good without over doing it and hurting for days. I hope some of these helped and if you have others feel free to share them in the comments below.

These hats can be some of the best beauty accessories I have ever used
Love these hats from Express and Vineyard Vines

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With Love,

Alexa

January 14, 2020

5 Traveling Secrets For Invisible Illness Warriors

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Traveling can be a struggle for anyone, but especially for someone who is constantly in pain. I know, I have been there. That doesn’t mean it isn’t possible it just means it’s going to take more strategy. Don’t worry though I have your back and I am here to report some tips that have worked for me.

1. Pack Light

Whether you are traveling near or far it’s always best to pack as light as possible. The less you have to carry the better it is for you. If you are traveling with others you could always see if you could put a few things in their bags to lighten the load.

When it comes to carry-on bags you will want to only pack the necessities. My go-to’s are my medications, my kindle, a snack, and any valuables that I don’t want in my suitcase. I have noticed that backpacks are a great option to use as it evenly distributes the weight.

Another option for those who don’t want to carry a heavy backpack would be a small rolling suitcase.

Just be careful not to trip 🙂

Traveling with a Buddy

So many times we have to unfourtnately travel alone, but when we are able to go with someone it’s always so much more relaxed. There have been plenty of times that I have an extra rough flare up due to doing too much and I always appreciate when I can have someone to help me.

Traveling with family can be so helpful

Plan ahead

The best advice I can think of is to plan as much of your trip ahead as possible. A few possible ways to do this are to get an aisle seat, get wheelchair assistance if needed and bring proper clothing.

If you are traveling by plane and typically have to get up to move around a lot a window seat might be your best friend. For anyone who feels like they need to stay seated more you may want a window seat to not have to get up for other people. It is really all about what suits your needs.

We all know how big airports are. If you are someone who has trouble walking it might be smart to book wheelchair service when you book your flight.

Knowing what is ahead can be so helpful when it comes to packing your carry-on, luggage, and medications. For instance, if you are typically cold you might want to layer up for the plane ride because nothing is worse than being uncomfortable for long rides.

Lastly, when it comes to planning ahead, ALWAYS and I mean ALWAYS wear and bring comfortable shoes. I can’t emphasize how important your comfort is.

Spend a little more for better seats

Most planes have seats really close together and no leg room. If you are someone who is either claustrophobic or just needs the space it might be more beneficial in the long run to spend more and get the better seats.

Traveling and Breaks are a Must

You have to adjust what you do with how your body is. I am that person who will overdo it on the days that I don’t feel as bad and end up suffering for days.

When traveling make sure to give yourself plenty of time to relax and decompress. It could be anything from reading to writing to watching a program as long as it is something you enjoy and you are relaxed.

Traveling and reading are the best
Reading and Lounging are my favorite to take breaks

These are just a few of the many traveling tips I have figured out along the way and there will be plenty more as I continue to travel.

With Love,

Alexa xo

About Me

AvatarI am the author of With Love, Ella, and Daniel, Ever After. I am also the voice behind the blog and podcast called With Love Alexa. I created my brand after a traumatic brain injury caused me to have chronic pain and suffer in silence. I want to be the voice for those who can't advocate for themselves.

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