Dream Big. Work Hard. Failure isn't an Option
I first started my novel With Love, Ella when I was a junior in College. One night in January of 2014 the idea of the two main characters popped into my head and it took off from there. I always thought it would be fun to publish my book and say look what I did, but at the time it wasn’t what I thought was my true calling.
Flash forward three years later and a lot of editing, re-writing, coaching, figuring out what I want to do with my life and finally publishing my debut novel. It had been the most amazing feeling in the world to put my book out there and to get feedback.
Originally all throughout college and even for a year after I thought Event Planning was what I would be doing, but once I was in the field I realized that it wasn’t my greatest passion. It had been writing all along. I am now a full-time writer with one published novel and a few manuscripts going through the editing and re-writing process. I started this blog as another way to be able to help others and to express myself.
I have always loved the idea of blogging and now that I am writing full time and finally starting my brand it is scary. There are many days that I have major freak-outs because what if I fail? What if I think I am good at what I do, but in reality, I’m really not? Or, what if I only can do this as something part-time? What would I end up doing for something full time? The list is endless, but the truth of the matter is no matter what we do with our lives we all have these doubts. If it is something we really want and we work for it there should be nothing stopping us, but ourselves.
Throughout my journey so far I have learned that it is important to enjoy the ride because one day you could be at the top and if you are too busy freaking out every moment you might miss the best moments. There is always going to be bumpy moments, but it’s important to handle one step at a time and to look at it as little hurdles instead of one giant one. It can be easier said than done, but that’s life and anything easy isn’t usually all that fun in the end anyway.
It's okay to be afraid of failure it just proves how much you want something. The only difference is if you let that worry of failure get to you or not. There is always going to be people trying to get us down, but the only voice that matters is our own. I am constantly telling myself to keep working and to keep putting my work out there for as long as I am passionate and excited about it. The minute I am no longer excited or happy with what I am doing that is when you know it is time to look into yourself and see what is next. It doesn't mean you failed it, it just means that you may have outgrown that particular project or career path. I used to think when I didn't like something it meant I failed, but as I have gotten older I have now learned that failing is giving up when you haven't put your all into it or giving up because of comments others have made.
If you are someone like me who tends to over-analyze everything and feel like the world is falling apart when things go wrong. Or that you are worried you are going to fail just take a deep breath and look at the problem in baby steps because it will make the problem look a lot less scary and more like a journey. Ps, a glass a wine never hurt anyone either.