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Keep Calm and Kiss Anxiety Goodbye

Keep Calm and Kiss Anxiety Goodbye

Anxiety can be a bitch and haunt us whenever it deems necessary. We could be going about our business feeling happy and the next moment our stomach is in knots, or our chest feels like a there is an elephant sitting on it. Sometimes we know why we are our anxious and other times it can be hard to pinpoint the reason. Nevertheless, it is an uncomfortable feeling that people don't want to experience.

I have been an anxious person most of my life and throughout my experiences, I have learned a few ways to try and let go of the anxiety. The most important lesson I have learned is that we are in control and that it is up to us to teach our brains that we are not scared of these feelings because we know they will pass. 

Here are five ways I have learned to try to improve my anxiety.

1. Write letters to the person or thing that is bothering you

 I have learned it can be helpful to write out as many letters to the person or thing that is bothering you as you need without actually sending the letter. If you have a test that is stressing you out you can write a letter about how you are feeling about the test and what is worrying you. The same thing can be said if someone upset you.  I have done this exercise many times and it has been helpful with certain aspects of my anxiety. 

2. Talk it out

When I am dealing with anxiety and I have talked with other people who deal with anxiety. Talking it out with someone can be helpful whether it is someone close to you, or someone on the outside. I have done both and I find both to be equally helpful depending on what is bothering me. Sometimes it is easier to talk to someone on the outside because you don't want to burden the people close to you.

3. Close your eyes and picture the anxiety as you tell it you are in charge

Sometimes it can be as simple as closing your eyes and letting your anxiety come up to the surface. You continually tell yourself that you are in power and that you are safe. Don't let your anxiety scare you because it will go away nothing is permanent. This could also be the time you bring to meditation if that is something that might help you. I was taught this method and it has started to help me 

4. Exercise 

This can be helpful when you have a lot of pent-up emotions especially anger and frustration. For someone like me who isn't into exercise, this wouldn't be for me, but I have heard this is a great way to clear your head and to get in a better mindset. It can be anything from taking a short walk around the block to going to the gym for a few hours, to even taking a dance class. Whatever you like to do go for it.

5. Do the things that make you happy 

Whenever I am in a funk I love to read, spend time with friends and family, write, and even binge watch my favorite shows. I like to do things that help me to get out of my own head and into another world. When I read, or write I am becoming a part of a whole new world and even though it might only alleviate my anxiety for a little while at least I was able to escape for that time. I have had times where I felt better after just some time away from my inner thoughts. It all just depends on what is going on. 

The bottom line is to start taking time for yourself to figure out ways that can help alleviate your stress and anxiety because, in the end, it will make you better a person not only for yourself but for everyone around you.

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